A Merry ND Christmas
As 2023 comes to an end I want to thank all my ND families for seeking ND-affirming support for themselves and/or their loved ones. Accepting neuro-developmental differences as natural variations in human neurology is the beginning of a new social narrative benefiting humankind. I am proud to be a part of this movement and honoured to be guiding families on their journey to self-acceptance by drawing attention to their many strengths, understanding their challenges through a social model of disability, and acknowledging their passions and interests as an integral component to self-care and well-being.
For those who are new to understanding this paradigm shift I encourage kindness, and compassion to ND friends and family especially over Christmas and school holidays. Transitions, surprises, unexpected changes, and social expectations can easily overwhelm ND nervous systems. Christmas is synonymous with family traditions including moral and social expectations which can be a perfect storm for overwhelm and meltdown. Consider ways to reduce the overwhelm by asking ND friends and family what supports they might need. Here are my top tips for nurturing a neurodivergent Christmas:
Social, emotional and communication
Give money or gift cards
Reduce gift giving overwhelm by organising one Secret Santa gift each (with cost limit)
Exchange personal & special gifts before Christmas Day
Give advanced warning of changes
Be clear about who is invited so no one feels caught out
Consider providing organised games to reduce social awkwardness and give structure to connect with others
Connect via Zoom on Christmas day if attending in person is too overwhelming
Catch up with family or friends before or after Christmas day when expectations and demands are lowered
Remove the pressure of having to attend for the entire day
Sensory
Limit time spent in busy Christmas shopping periods
Use online shopping options
Provide safe foods on the day
Provide a variety of spaces to eat
Limit the use of colognes and scented products
Reduce the volume on Christmas songs
Set aside a comfy quiet space for retreating
Provide access to regular tools for soothing and regulation (headphones/iPad)
Turn off bright flashing Christmas lights (use a non-flashing mode)
Avoid exploding crackers (bon bons)
Respect body boundaries (no expectation to kiss, hug, or shake hands)
Wear comfortable clothes
Providing a flexible, accommodating, and compassionate Christmas Day environment is likely to improve everyone’s experience, lifting the pressure to conform and connect us with each other.
We will be closing on Friday 22nd December and will re-open on Monday 15th January 2024.
From everyone at Badger’s Place we wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.
